As a good friend often reminds me... it ain't bragging if you done it
It all feels a bit much today.
Background: I took a step back in spring to really get deep into what my clients wanted from me as a coach, interviewing people who felt overwhelmed or bogged down by clutter, and ‘stuck’ small business owners. (It's led me to creating Lighten Up for anyone feeling weighed down by stuff, clutter, or a full head. And I have a beautiful small business support programme on the way too, which I can't wait to share!)
However, research mode was a fabulous safe space to hide and I stayed too long. Getting visible again has stirred up ALL the self-doubt. I’m vulnerable now, putting new stuff out into the world and wondering, wondering, wondering… is it good enough? Is is useful, accessible, buyable? What if it isn’t? What does that mean about me?
The whirling in my head slows my words so that I feel less-than as a writer, communicator, fellow human. How can I share my value with you if I can’t string together a coherent sentence? What if I have no value, what then? The whirling continues. There’s no content; I might be listening to the dishwasher for all the use it is. At it’s loudest I go outside and pull up weeds in the garden, my long-term medicine for a headful of white noise and a churning stomach.
The sudden realisation that this is anxiety hits hard, doubles me over and leaves me certain, if I wasn’t before, that I cannot do this.
How can I, overwhelmed balancing family, home and my small business, possibly help other people in the same place?
And yet, fifty seven weeds later, I know the answer to this. Of course I do. I’m in THE best place to help, to coach, cheerlead and challenge other humans going through the fog. And yes, we do get through, the sunshine IS out there folks.
Until I re-framed the idea, I saw testimonials as vanity. Now I see them as evidence. Not so much for you to see just what I can do. But so I can see it.
“I would definitely recommend Sarah to those seeking clarity and vision”
“I welcomed the much needed head space and felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders”
“In a very relaxed and enjoyable way, Sarah enabled the team to refocus, see our collective vision again and gave us the tools to stay on track”
*breathes deeply, head clears*
I'm so happy to share this idea of gathering-of-evidence to anyone who has moments of self-doubt. It’s powerful to see this black and white evidence that I DO have value, I CAN do this.
I’ve done it = I can do it again. And I’ll grow along the way = bonus.
And, it's ok to share my evidence because... it ain't bragging if you done it.
What’s your self-doubt buster? Please share!